Overcoming Insecurity

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02 May, 2019 By Linda Barbour

Feeling insecure is a normal part of human existence. Believe it or not, everyone feels insecure from time to time.  Yes, that’s right, everyone!  We all have moments where we wonder if we’re good enough, smart enough and whether people like us. We have doubts about our relationships, we question our decisions as it pertains to business, anxiety about our futures and wonder if we’re living up to everyone’s expectations. But enough with not feeling good enough!  You are ENOUGH!  Therefore, you deserve to feel confident, capable and accepted every day.  But it starts with you!  It’s time to overcome the insecurities that keep bringing you down and build up your self-esteem. You are probably asking, how?  The process starts by taking action and taking control of your life. Believe it or not, confidence isn’t something you’re born with, but a quality you develop in yourself over time.  So often many things and opportunities pass us by because of our insecurities that we have about ourselves.  I don’t know about you, but there comes a point where something must give in this area because there is so much more beyond the limits that we set for ourselves.  So, why wait another day?  Decide not to let insecurities ruin the beauty that you were born with. Try these five simple steps to power past your anxieties and build confidence without a doubt.

Become Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable

Yes… It’s time to get out of the zone—the comfort zone, that is. If you’re like many of us, the fear of failure prevents you from trying something new. However, the only way to face your fears is by putting yourself in circumstances that make you feel uncomfortable.  Push past the boundaries of being uncomfortable, and to step outside of your comfort zone and push yourself to do something completely unfamiliar. Something totally new. Something you’ve been too nervous or hesitant to do. It may sound scary, but you can do it.  You can do anything that you set your mind to do, and you’ll find that once you’ve done it, you’ll gain confidence in the activities that you tried, as well as feel good that you were able to confront your fears head-on and stay strong throughout the struggle. PUSH past uncomfortable!


Say No to Negative Thoughts

What you think about you bring about. If your mind is constantly filled with negative thoughts, you will get negative results. Condition yourself to stop being your worst critic and become your biggest cheerleader!  Stop putting yourself down and start building yourself up.  When you have stinking thinking you’re only holding yourself back from achieving the things you want and feeling as good as you should. When those negative thoughts sneak up, you need to flip the script and replace them with some positive affirmations. These are simply supportive, uplifting statements that we say to ourselves. They’re compliments, rather than criticism, that build you up instead of putting you down. Repeating them like mantras makes your brain accept them, which allows you to believe them and builds your self-esteem.  If only you could be a fly on the wall at my house!  You’d think I’d lost it because of the way I have implemented “self-talk” and “affirmations” into my life.  They work!  


Feel Insecure? Come Flourish with Us!

Did you ever wonder why the kids in the popular group always seemed so cool and confident? Turns out that it wasn’t because they were really all that cool, it was because being part of a group makes you feel more confident. It’s true!  According to recent research, people that belonged to a large number of clubs, groups or an structured organizations reported much higher levels of confidence than others who had a large circle of friends, but didn’t belong to clubs, groups, or were members of a structured organization. Wonder why?  Structured groups contribute to your sense of self and social identity because they surround you with people who share your views and values. This, in turn, makes you feel accepted, understood, and gives you the proper atmosphere to FLOURISH. And when you’re among like-minded people, you feel less socially-awkward and have plenty of opportunities to make some new friends, gain lasting relationships which boosts your self-esteem even more. If your confidence could use a boost, maybe it’s time to regroup and FLOURISH!

Help Yourself by Helping Others

When you suffer from low self-esteem, you spend all your time focused on how you don’t measure up, and what’s wrong with you, which only brings you down. Do you want to become more confident? If so, stop obsessing over yourself and start helping others.   Supporting others and giving back can increase your self-esteem in several worthwhile ways. First, improving another’s life makes you feel appreciated. Secondly, it gives you a chance to take your thoughts off you and direct them towards something bigger than you.  And lastly, you’ll see that it will give you a sense of belonging when you find an area of compassion for something beyond your personal corner of the world. So, I encourage you to connect with Flourish and become a part of something that purposes to do things with purpose moving past the status quo. You’ll soon discover how connecting with something that helps others FLOURISH will help you feel good about yourself, as you help others FLOURISH and feel good about themselves.

It’s never too late to improve your self-esteem. Be assured that these four simple tips will give your confidence a boost—beyond a shadow of a doubt.  Never let insecurities ruin the beauty you were born with.  You are enough! You were born that way.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   

Written by

Linda Barbour

Founder and Creator of The Flourish Network and Flourish Networking for Women.